Girls - BE ARROGANT! (Part Two - WHY we've been socialised this way)

We’ve trod through the murky waters. Acknowledged what we needed to face, what we couldn’t ignore anymore.

Sis, I’m going to do the opposite of what this cruel world does for you.

I’m going to boost your ego now.

And so to do that, it’s time for us to unpack…

—WHY you've been socialised this way:

Everyone fears the powerful woman. The woman with intelligence, the woman with beauty, the woman with confidence, the woman with status. The woman empowered.

The woman in power.

You name it, they hate it.

Want to know WHY they hate it?

Because it fucking scares them.

Why else do you think they always want to make us question our worth, and question ourselves? Why would they be so hellbent on trying to "humble" us and tear us down if we weren't above them?

If they see something in us they try so hard not to let us see in ourselves?

Insert "Too Much" by Dove Cameron:

"If you say I'm too much, baby go find less, if you can't keep up stay below I guess, if I'm such a big deal maybe you're too little, ooh, it's tough, too, too too much, for you, babe~"

Once I saw a girl's comment saying, "take the humbling as a sign that we're too powerful. People don't try to bring down what's already low, they bring down what's too high and makes them uncomfortable."

And that couldn't be more true.

What a beautiful fucking quote.

So basically, you've had the power all along, they just didn't want you to know it. Do you get it now? Let that boost your ego, sister, they tear us down because they're jealous, threatened and intimidated. Bullies tear us down because they're jealous, threatened and intimidated. Society tears us down because it's jealous, threatened and intimidated. Patriarchy tears us down because he's jealous, threatened and intimidated. And the misogynist men and women tear us down because they're jealous, threatened and intimidated.

It was really always that simple.

Author’s note: Hey, gorgeous!! First of all, thank you so much for reading!! This is a re-published version of my Girls - BE ARROGANT! essay. The whole thing was initially published on the 30th of May, 2025, on my Substack — my debut essay. This time though, I’m breaking it into parts for you so it’s a faster read! (This second part covers WHY the patriarchy feels the need to brainwash all girls and all women into insecurity to begin with.) I wrote quite a lot — it was about a twelve minute read according to Substack! But now it’s in parts instead!! <33

And now, it's on WRIZZIT too!

Do stay tuned for part three, gorgeous! And be sure to check out my Substack, too!

Love you — BYE!

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